Tuning Back In

Yes, grieving the loss of a life-long partner is all-consuming for a while, but eventually we do get through the metamorphosis of the new me and the new normal and emerge. I am finally beginning to do that. As those of you who have lost a significant loved one know, it sure isn’t easy. I know I have far to go, but I have had glimmers of joy here and there recently as I commit to re-entry. After making a list of what my husband represented to me, I realized how much I’m actually grieving so I can be kind to myself and forgive my sobfests. Beside being the one love of my life, he was my comfort, my routine, my purpose…my safety, my strength, my grounding, my cheerleader…my entertainment, my social partner, my teacher, …my driver, my confidente and my best friend for 54 years. Needless to say, my world was rocked.

What I’m learning now, after 13 months since he passed, is that I am beginning to grow those abilities by necessity, and, when I can’t, I find resources and reach out for teachers and friends to help me in the day-to-day living. I have also spent a crazy amount of time reading books and watching podcasts on the afterlife to confirm my belief his energy is still with me in spirit. That gives me some peace as well.

I’ve also learned how important it is to nurture my body while the sadness wants to eat up my health. Eating right, sleeping well, and exercising truly makes a such a difference mentally and emotionally for me. It’s such a push, but worth it to go outside for a brisk walk or a workout that changes my mood. Spiritually I find taking time to give to others, volunteer, and be grateful also work into lessening the grief for the buzz of joy. But the biggest lesson I’ve learned is the unbelievable importance of human connection and laughter. My brain simply feels so much better when I share time with people I care about…family and good friends…laughing at whatever strikes us funny. It truly builds the feel-good hormones like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. In fact, it makes me feel almost normal, or at least my new normal, tuning back into life with complete relief from the sadness during those purely magical moments of joy.

2 responses to “Tuning Back In”

  1. You are such a divine inspiration and so very loved! xoxo

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    1. Thank you so much! I appreciate that.

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