TALES FROM THE BOBBI LAMA

The older I get, the more I know in my heart that what matters most is the time we spend with those we love. I remember all the way back to when I met my husband-to-be. We couldn’t have been happier than to just spend time together. We were in college and often didn’t have a dollar in either of our pockets, and it didn’t matter. As the decades went by, the size of our houses, or vacations, or things we owned were truly unimportant compared to how connected we felt. After he passed, my initial grief was about not being able to share time with him. However, after I began to get signs from him that reminded me he was with me, just in a new dimensioon, I felt a little less pain from the loss. Now, whenever I feel that huge void, I remind myself his spirit is with me. Even today I was feeling really sad because I’m missing him during the holidays. Drying my tears, I started up my clothes dryer, and suddenly it just turned off for no reason. I started it again, and it was fine. Then, when I went to sit down and read, my reading lamp flickered and then was fine. Within that same hour, when I was watching tv, it just turned off, only to be perfectly fine when turned back on. Three attention-getting signs helped me to feel connected again.

Then there are those times when I need more than a spiritual sign. In order to manage the grief, I’ve discovered I can find my joy by just by spending time with those who lift me up, those to whom I feel connected, those who want to share time with me, or those I can be with to help or make happy. Spending meaningful time with them has given me my happiness back. And I don’t have to be doing anything special, you know what I mean? I can just sit with a good friend and share stories that make us laugh, or cry, or just feel connected or understood. It’s the time I spend with those significant people in my life that I now absolutely cherish!