TALES FROM THE BOBBI LAMA

Survivng the passing of my husband exactly two years and two months today has taught me a lot about life…and the afterlife. First of all, right after he passed, I believed I couldn’t handle his absence. The depth of my sadness was more than I could bear, especially the first few months. But now, on this anniversary, I only have some sad times like yesterday. As it turned out, it was a day that we always used to invite friends over to share his favorite thing of all…the SuperBowl! And I used to love planning our Valentine’s Day celebration with him which we also would have done this past weekend. So it was a double hard couple of days. I knew I needed a distraction from that sadness to get myself out of that weepy state. However, everyone I knew to call and spend time with was unavailable. I was alone and missing him badly, and the loneliness seemed exponential this year.

To help me process this grief, I started writing in my journal. I decided to write to him asking for a “Valentine sign.” Right in the middle of writing my question to him, I was interrupted with his voice instantly popping into my mind saying, “We have a bigger Love now, transcending everything, and not just the Hallmark kind.”

And he was right. I hadn’t been thinking about our new love across the veil that way. As for his communications from the other side, I’ve noticed, as I’ve told stories in my book, “You Don’t Know Jack!”, whenever he interrupts my stream of thought with a message, it’s different. It isn’t like my thoughts streaming in an order that’s either logical or emotional and on my ego plane. Mine are my relatively small earthly concerns with all their shortsightedness of the bigger Divine Oneness. His “interruptions” are short, rich-with-meaning concepts that override mine with such beautiful vision. They are larger than my little mind would be busy ruminating about. His pop-ins are like Universal Truths, from a non ego-based magnificent reality. I recognize them now. And how awesome it is to understand that! The fact is, he is responding in real time, and always with the very wisdom I need. His blunt “interruptions” shake me out of my grief and back into a knowing that he is not gone. That was exactly the comfort I needed, so his Valentine sign was perfect!