TALES FROM THE BOBBI LAMA

We all know the feeling…I need a bigger house (car, boat, paycheck, etc.) to be happy. We’re always a dream away from what we think will do it. And that little space between where we are, and what we think will make all the difference, is the space that keeps us from it. How ironic, right? The chase, the sweat. the efforts all keep our eyes on the prize, but not on the present moment. With a little reframing of our thoughts from our expectations, to our gratitude for what we have, that tweak alone would give us peace. I can’t help but think of all the people in the world who might be wishing for what I have now…which is enough. And don’t get me wrong, I dream and work for more, and plan to improve, too, but reccently have reminded myself to be grateful for exactly what I have at this instant…which is always more than some, and less than others.

I’ve also learned in my hypnotherapy practice, to avoid the phrasing of wishing, wanting, or hoping for those working on goals to become more of something. Those words put what we want to be out in front of us just beyond, or way beyond, our reach. The same goes for setting intentions to bring our goals to fruition. Setting up the mindset of positive change is best done through positive thought…such as “I am now…” or “I am becoming…more and more each day.” It’s more of a happening now than “Someday I want to be….” down the road. Accepting what you are as enough… perfect, whole and complete at this moment, starts the foundation of belief in and appreciation for yourself. Your wanting to be something else puts that space back in there. Having that knowing that you are the perfect product of your life…your experiences on your personal journey… and still growing is a healthy perspective. Enjoying your growth as the positive outlook surely beats “not-good-enough-and-reaching-to-be-something-else.” Chasing happiness makes it illusive, when, in fact, it’s right here to embrace.